I’m nice to everyone and everyone’s mean to me in return. Lately I have been stressed out due to this. What can I do?
Hi! First of all let me say that I am sorry you are feeling stressed lately. It is not a nice place to be for sure, especially when it is happening as a result of you being nice to everyone and then they turn around and be mean.
You have a good heart. However it looks as though your love is turned in a direction that is much less likely to bring happiness and peace than if you directed it a slightly different way.
What I mean by this is that sometimes when we are trying to be nice, maybe without realising it, we are looking for love or appreciation from others in return.
Where is your true value?
This is where it all goes pear-shaped because we are pinning our value on other people’s reactions instead of recognising that we are inherently valuable in our own right.
When we turn our attention to connecting to our true value and open up to receiving the self-love, self-compassion and inner support that is there…and when appreciate our own sincerity and well-meaning it actually doesn’t matter a jot what others think or do with what we are putting out there.
We are simply radiating out love from a cup that is full for the pure enjoyment of it
Other people’s reactions are their own ‘stuff’
Often people who blame or criticise others are doing so because they don’t want to face their own inner critic or self-rejection so they find it easier to ‘put it out there’.
We need to honour where they are at in their journey since they may have learned to be like this by having parents or teachers etc who were very criticising and rejecting.
You don’t need to ‘take it on board’.
Their definition of you doesn’t have to be YOUR definition of you.
Be confident about your own understanding of yourself as someone who has a kind heart, on a journey of re-connecting to the true strong magnificent love that you are.
You only need to allow yourself to shine. If someone wants to block out your light, know that they can’t!
All they can do is wear dark glasses … you still shine!
In fact by being mean they are doing you a favour because they are causing you to search deeper for answers and this is the path to your awakening and ultimately your true contentment.
Law of Attraction
There are other aspects involved here too, such as you attracting towards you relationships that reflect back how you feel about yourself.
For example, if you see yourself as a victim then when others are mean they are simply playing their part in confirming you as a victim, albeit unconsciously.
See how this works?
Change your view of yourself and how others relate to you will change.
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